October 19, 2010
What's the boarder line between love and money?
I was asked one time by a straight colleague, when he found out that my boyfriend is in Manila, that I obviously sends money to him. For his maintenance and to keep him from looking to other guys. I mean that's absurd!
I don't have a problem treating my special someone over dinner or dates, or giving gifts on special occasions, but asking or borrowing money is a different thing!
Clayton came from an average family, having a small business, and he is earning more than enough from his job. I know I'm safe with him!
Money is not easy to find these days. It was hard-earned. Not given to you easily. Money is a very sensitive issue to me now. Many gay people have been fooled by love...took advantage of their love...
I learned my lesson some time ago. I've been used. Borrowed money from me and never paid me back. Now I realized I'm stupid for trusting. At least its over now, before its too late. He took advantage of my millions LOL!
Nakakadala na magtiwala kasi...
I told myself, I'm gonna have this rule: I won't involve money on any relationship I'm going to have next time. Money changes everything.
"But what if, if... your boyfriend now, the one you really love....is in a very difficult financial crisis, lets say, a family member being very sick, or an accident at the hospital now, their resources have run out or something and you're the only one who could help him...would you're rule still applies?" my straight colleague have asked me.
Honestly, I wasn't able to answer that.
It took me a long time to answer.
Well, maybe if its really a matter of life and death I would gladly help. But not to shoulder everything...I guess.
I saw a grin on his face as if telling me: "See, you still gonna give!"