July 16, 2009

Acceptance is the Key


I was talking to a new found friend here at Doha when we talked about her family,her kids...she told me that her young son is showing early signs of "joining the other side"...that at first her husband was frustrated about it and trying to stop it from developing. He don't want a gay son.

"He was beating him with a belt and don't want him to be gay...its really obvious that he is different,he likes girl's stuffs, he wanna wear girly clothes..." she was laughing while telling me these things

"One time when he was sick we brought him to the doctor and talked about our son's sexuality and he advised us that the acceptance should start with the family...his own parents..."

"That how can anyone or the society accept him if his own blood cannot accept what he is"

"The kid will develop some insecurity and he wont be able to enjoy his childhood to the fullest if at an early age he encounters hardship already. That's why after that, my husband and I decided to accept him straight or not, we will love him and support him all the way...we have a gay son, that's it." she said.

I salute her and her husband for being so proud of their son, I was thinking at that moment that their son is so lucky having them as parents and that what if I have a dad like that? would the situation in our family will be different? as you all know that I am not close to my dad and that many years ago I despised him and cursed him to death haha.Well, that was in the past now.

13 comments:

Rwetha said...

i wish all parents would be like that when they found out their son/daughter is gay/lesb...

i have friends who remains in the closet 'coz their afraid of their parents' reaction once they admit their sexual preference..

Mac Callister said...

yeah thats an awful situation to be in...hay..

Efarojie said...

in some countries, scratch that...in many countries, gay is still a taboo..n not many people can accept them..still it's up to the parents on how the want to shape their kids..as long as they din kill him..haha

line of flight said...

hitting a child with a belt is a definite sign that someone shouldn't be a parent -- whether or not they subsequently are nice to their children.

MCBOY said...

buti na lang hindi ako binugbog ng tatay ko. Minsan nakita niya kong nakasuot ng mini-skirt.

Aba galit na galit at pinagmumura pa niya ko.Ugali niya kasi na ayaw na ayaw niya pinapaki-alaman yung mga gamit niya.

joke lang hehe


Seriously, when I told my mom that I'm gay nag-crayola lang kami pareho. That was it!

flamindevil said...

well, that boy is lucky to have them as his parents. :p

blurosebluguy said...

tama ka mac...acceptance is a basic need ng isang tao who is seeking and understanding about one's true identity..lalo na sa mga adoslescents...dapat nga pagtuunan ito ng mga school counsellors, parents, etc...

StarFish said...

awwww, i this blog is likable! hee hee... nothing perverted or sick in any way! HAHA! kidding! hope you're doing well in your new home... adjusting well i hope :)

about your blog post, yeah that kid is lucky to have such understanding parents... i think my mom would beat the crap out of me, my dad... not so much, he's more accepting than my mom... :P nuff said!

have a great weekend!

ramil said...

good he found a very loving and supportive family. i just hope more and more parents will be as open minded as possible.

marvin said...

how about acceptance and guidance? marami na kasing parents ang uma-accept to the point of kukunsintihin 'yung kung ano na lang ang gusto ng anak nila partly because they want to be nonchalant about it to hide the "pain" still lingering inside them. sa side kasi ng parents,it is innate na mahirap talagang tanggapin 'yun. and dapat, maintindihan din ng anak nila 'yun...

but still, acceptance is a giant step! :-)

Summer said...

Hay naku! Buti nalang tinanggap na sya ng tatay nya. At least magiging komportable na ang batang yun. =D Saka tama nman na sa pamilya dapat mag-umpisa ang pagtanggap. Dahil pamilya rin nman ang unang makakaintindi sa anak. =D May this be a good lesson to be learn by all the parent s out there. Specially sa mga may anak na Baklush! =D Peace out!

Mac Callister said...

@summer--tama ka!they set a good example!

@marvin--amen!hehe

@ramil-true sana nga.

@starfish--haha i know u love my blog perverted or not LOL!!!!

@blu--oo nga e,wish ko lang

@flamindevill--yeah i wish more and more parents are like them

@mcboy--haha gaga!natawa naman ako dun!

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Chronicler said...

Some parents tried to live in denial about their kids being different. They may not talk about it coz maybe its still taboo for them but as along as nobody is physically and emotionally hurt that would work as well. Again acceptance in any form is the key here.
Kmusta ka na dyan, friend?