He's a great provider...
A good father of a 2 year old cute girl and another one on the way...having a kind and patient wife back home in manila. He is also a good friend to you. You could always rely on him...
But you found out something...
He is gay.
Not just gay, but he is having affairs from one gay guy to another...
He's doing it discreetly, but you still found out.
What would you do as his best friend?
Tell his wife?
who by the way is very dear to you...
Talk to him and ask him to stop?
Would you just walk away?
Or pretend you don't know anything?
I don't know either.
A friend asked me these questions and seeking advice about his gay friend and I don't know what are the right words to say...
Its not wrong to be gay...
but what if you're married?
What if you have a loving family?
You guys, what would you possibly do in this case?
What's the right thing to do?
18 comments:
i say go for it!
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juz be prepared on what might happen one day in the future.
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oh, and blame no one but yourself.
Make a choice between what is right and what is easy. And it's not for me to dictate what it is---I'll let him judge.
as long as mag provide pa din siya sa family, para sakin walang problem..
parang sa ganyang case, ang hirap makialam..
kung ako tatahimik lang kako, it's not my business to mind :)
I think you should tell your friend na sabihin sa friend nya yung mga consequences ng kanyang extra-curricular activities.
Then gaya ng sabi ni Ryan, let him decide for himself.
Pero i think he's aware naman kung ano pwedeng mangyari. 'Wag na nyang hintayin ang isang vonggang vonggang revelation. Baka sya ang mawalan in the end.
@desole--kakatakot ang dami kasi pwde mangyari..
@ryan--kaya nga
@virex--kaso pano naman un wife nya,parang unfair?
@soltero--ang hirap noh,naiintindihan ko yun bestfriend nya,gusto nya tumulong na parang ayaw.
@ms.chuni--yun nga ang nakakatakot pano one day bigla nalang may eskandalo?
mr mac, ask na lang ur friend what he likes to do... then let him weigh the consequences of his actions...; )
dapat kasi eh pagmarried na hwag na maglandi coz it can destroy your family pero kahit naman sa straight guys applicable naman eh lalo na yung may mistress...
pero may kilala ako na married guy nahuli ni mrs na nakikipagsex sa isang guy but until now magkasama pa rin silang dalawa..
just apply the saying.
"buntot mo hila mo."
advantage kung hindi kayo close ng wife pero hindi mabalingan ng sisi.
well we can't do anything about it. . he may have a perfect family. .but he's gay. . .
for me talk to him first. . listen and give him advice .. just give your own opinion about the situation . .and it's up to him if he'll follow it or not
that's a tough one. i guess for starters, if u were the daddy, how would you want the situation to be dealt with>
Ang jirap ng sitwasyon teh. Kung sino o alin ang mas matimbang sa yo, piliin mo. It's not wrong to be gay, but it's unacceptable to have affairs when you're married. Kawawa yung girl at anak. Pero mahirap manghimasok. I hope it gets sorted out.
ehhhh no comment ako dito. :P
@mr.secrecy--he wants to talk to the gay friend,kaso sabi ko magkakasira naman sila or baka masamain...hay hirap noh haha
@hardtpget--tama!pinili mo mag asawa e dapat panindigan mo na un at wla ng landi landi!
@ming--yeah,magiguilty ka kasi friend mo din un misis,nakaka kensensiya na alam mo niloloko siya di ba,
@ibanez--maganda yan sinabi mo...
@citybuoy--hayy,di ko din alam!ayoko pa naman ng pinapakialaman!haha
@carrie--oo nga e,bahala na yun friend ko dun hahaha!
@jepoy--hahaha!
no comment ang komento ko dito. nyahaha
napaka komplikadong sitwasyon...
di ko alam kung anong sasabihin ko pag ako ang nasa ganyang sitwasyon.
The Truth Hurts,,
But Lies Worst..
just go w/ the Flow..
time will make it into shape..
personally, I feel that there is a need for us to change kung may anak na taung mga gays.
Hindi na lang kasi kaligyahan or kahihiyan natin ang nakasalalay kung magkakaron tau ng baby.
Dont get me wrong pero I once asked my professor who is gay way back in college, kung bakit di xa nag-aasawa or nag-anak man lang.
His answer was: "Hindi ko kakayanin na malaman ng anak ko na ang tatay niya ay BAKLA, ikamamatay ko un. Kaya kong tiisin ang panlilibak sa pagiging bakla ko pero kung ibang tao ang malilibak dahil sakin, lalo pat anak ko, wag na lang."
So I think, you talk to ur friend and tell him to change not for himself but for the child. I just feel there really is a need kung may batang involved :)
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