What's the boarder line between love and money?
I was asked one time by a straight colleague, when he found out that my boyfriend is in Manila, that I obviously sends money to him. For his maintenance and to keep him from looking to other guys. I mean that's absurd!
I don't have a problem treating my special someone over dinner or dates, or giving gifts on special occasions, but asking or borrowing money is a different thing!
Clayton came from an average family, having a small business, and he is earning more than enough from his job. I know I'm safe with him!
Money is not easy to find these days. It was hard-earned. Not given to you easily. Money is a very sensitive issue to me now. Many gay people have been fooled by love...took advantage of their love...
I learned my lesson some time ago. I've been used. Borrowed money from me and never paid me back. Now I realized I'm stupid for trusting. At least its over now, before its too late. He took advantage of my millions LOL!
Nakakadala na magtiwala kasi...
I told myself, I'm gonna have this rule: I won't involve money on any relationship I'm going to have next time. Money changes everything.
"But what if, if... your boyfriend now, the one you really love....is in a very difficult financial crisis, lets say, a family member being very sick, or an accident at the hospital now, their resources have run out or something and you're the only one who could help him...would you're rule still applies?" my straight colleague have asked me.
Honestly, I wasn't able to answer that.
It took me a long time to answer.
Well, maybe if its really a matter of life and death I would gladly help. But not to shoulder everything...I guess.
I saw a grin on his face as if telling me: "See, you still gonna give!"
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Mac Callister--balak rin namaing mag Coron next year---at nang makita ang difference . kung bakit under rated ang PP sa Coron e naenjoy ko namna ang PP.
look out for my next posts on Honda bay and the underground river.
Ika nga ni Kris Aquino, "I earn more so I contribute more." Wala namang mali dun.
Lol retired na ako dapat pero di ko napigilang mag comment. Di kasi dapat nagiging issue ang pera. Lagi namang may isang kumikita nang mas malaki.
Why not if you have more than enough?
Hehe smart ang friend m
Boundaries are meant to be crossed....at some point at some time! Don't be hesitant to come to the help of someone special....you'll know by urslf if giving the money is the right thing to do or not!
Ur smart, Mac...or hav you forgotten that? :p
Btw...chck my latest post...your going to live it *toing* ;)
Buy a car win a boyfriend ba ang game na to? LOL
ewan ko teh ha... pero i felt na even sa straight relationships... it still is the same thing.
money will always be part of any relationships, straight or otherwise. :)
@pusang kalye--i've seen the place on some pics and videos,it was heaven!
@ex-jason--totoo,at sinabi ni kris yun?haha
@ms.chuniverse--true,pero dapat kapag talagang kelangan...
@dark knight--oo nga e,napaisip ako sa kanya!
@phunk--yeah,thats why now i know in times of crisis,i am going to help.on crisis only emphasis on that LOL!
@kumagcow--haha ewan ko sau!
@hondafainboi--oo,pero mas madami tingin ko ang nagte take advantage sa mga gay...at madami ako kilala n ganun,na hinihingan ng bf nila ng money kunyari may ganito ganyan ek ek...
it's a tough call pero it should be an issue na dapat pagusapan ng magkarelasyon...although nakakairitang mautakan (just in case ), it should be a wake up call kapag sobra na sa "tolerable" yung issue. u don't have to choose ur money over him in some cases pero u should know na kapag mukha ka nang gatasan, call it quits! :))
I think money matters in all relationships; whether gay or straight.
I remember my mon and day arguing who decides how they budget the money, where to spend it, how to spend it.
Every couple eventually finds a comfortable arrangement. =) Have you?
Kane
i know a guy dati sa G4M na sa kasamaang palad e, medyo ganyan ang role, palabigasan. Nasa San Francisco and ang BF nya nsa Manila...pa allowance nya monthly un, khit na anong sbihin sa kanya, sinasabi nyang masaya naman sya sa ginagawa nya.
Obviously ur straight colleague knows something abt gay relationships na ganyan ang tema hmmmm...
@marvin--tumpak nakuha mo punto ko!hehe
@kane--clayton insisted that I should'n buy anything for him,he said he dont wanna be like my other ex....
@soletro--may kilala din ako ganyan...kaya dapat alam mo when its enough...
first time ko mapadpad sa iyong bahay at ito pa talaga ang issue hahaha! sa susunod eh hihingi na ako ng collateral LOL!
@ollie--hey welcome to my blog!
i believe clayton is intelligent enough to look for resources and not put your relationship together into jinx. :) you can be assure of that.
:D
hmm.. ako kasi, kung anu ang meron ako, i share with other people.. ewan ko ba, inde ko kasi iniisip sarili ko weh so lagi akong nagbibigay... (inde lang naman pera, minsan super libre.. as in everyday libre ng dinner).. though inde sa jowa ako nagbibigay, kundi sa friends.. ehehehe..
yung about sa question, well, kung matagal na keong nasa relation, why not.. and kung kilala mo naman ang family niya. but yung kunwari, mga 3 days palang keo, tapos biglang ganyan, pede ka din naman mag bigay, but inde ganun kalaki.. kasi baka umasa ng umasa seo.. so you have to set limits din..
binabasa ni clayton tong blog mo di ba badet?
kelangan si clayton ang magcomment charoz!
@you-know-me--parang kilala na nga kitaaaaaaaaaaaaa!hahaa
@virex--salamat na getz punto ko!
@orally--oo nabasa na nya tong entry na to hehehe!at sabi nya sa text,baka daw sanay na may gay benefactor yun friend ko haha!
yung example naman niya is extreme. it does not happen naman every day.
hahay, buti na lang kuripot ako.
Nakarelate ako sa post na to. lol. Naexperience ko na yan, tanga lang kasi kapag in love ka at mapagbigay. pero namulat rin ako at natuto. Iba kasi yung bigay sa utang. Iba kasi yung minamahal sa inaabuso.
Masense mo naman at magising na teka, sobra na 'to. Give and take lang yan.
pero sa case ng situation na kelangan talaga ng tulong financial to save a life, kahit hindi magdyowa o kahit friends lang, kapag meron ka, bakit ipagkait mo? Okay lang yan kung meron, kapag wala di pasensiyahan.
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